We Still Do: 11 Do’s and Don’ts of a Vow Renewal

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Have the Vow Renewal You Deserve

There is nothing more sweet and sentimental than a vow renewal! A vow renewal ceremony is a romantic way to reaffirm your love and commitment to your favorite person. The best part… there’s really no rules to this anymore. You can plan your vow renewal as a big ordeal or plan it as a small and intimate event. It’s really up to you!

Have you been dreaming of getting married again because your actual day didn’t turn out as planned?

There are so many reasons that inspire people to renew their vows. Couples often renew their vows on significant anniversaries like 5, 7, 10 or 25 years or if they have endured a difficult time in their marriage. But you don’t need a reason to have a vow renewal because who needs a reason to celebrate love?

To help you plan your vow renewal, we have curated a helpful list of do’s and don’ts. Follow these tips for a stress-free and fun-filled event!

The Do’s of a Vow Renewal

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Do include anything you wanted for your wedding that wasn’t possible the first time. It might be the dream dress, a violinist, or hiring a professional videographer. Bridal luxuries that you didn’t get to have when you first got hitched should definitely be included.

Do invite people that have had a lasting effect on your relationship. Friends, family, or colleagues that have always been there for you and your spouse should be there with you to rejoice in your romantic vow renewal.

Do splash out on indulgences like a hair and make-up artist, flowers and nice new outfits. You deserve to make this day memorable with a dash of luxury. Also, it wouldn’t be a wedding without a cake so don’t forget to order this decadent dessert to make the day even sweeter. 

Do write vows that express exactly how you feel about your partner. Now is the moment to reflect on the wonderful times you’ve had together and to share words that you might not say enough. Vow renewals are small and often just the two of you. If you have a lot to say, you can have long vows. You can add some humor, pause to cry and live in the joyous moment without many guests watching. 

Do get swept away in the romance of renewing your vows. In fact, there is nothing more romantic than declaring your love again. Let the emotions wash over you and spend the day snuggling, kissing and holding hands. 

Do have a reception. A vow renewal is a celebration of love, so party up! Book a fancy restaurant, plan that beach wedding, or book an actual wedding venue. The rules have changed for vow renewals, so this can be whatever you want it to be. Spend the day reminiscing and enjoying great food. Dance the night away and get as toasted as you want! Create your vision how you see fit. You’ll be so glad you did and you will walk away with a lasting memory of the next chapter of your love story.

The Don’ts of a Vow Renewal

Don’t get stressed out. This is your day and it should be whatever you want it to be. So, throw away the reins and have fun with this. This occasion should be 100 % joyous and zero % stressful.

Don’t have a bridal party. This is a vow renewal, so asking friends or family to dote you on a second time, assuming you did it the first time, is asking a lot of them. The exception to this is if you have a son or daughter who might adore being a flower girl or walking you down the aisle. They will be even extremely excited that they can do this for you!

Don’t spend boat loads of money. Keep it simple and elegant with some luxury and stick to a reasonable budget. It is easy to get carried away in the excitement and spend more money than you need to. You can also add thoughtful, personal touches like DIY decorations. DIY is a great way to save a ton of money. For more DIY wedding tips on how to save money, be sure to read my other post here.

Don’t invite people for the sake of inviting people. That means you don’t have to try pleasing anyone for this. For example, if you don’t want to invite that cousin or friend, who you haven’t spoken to or seen in over a decade, then don’t! Your event should be joyous, fun, and stress-free.

Don’t wait. If you are thinking about renewing your vows, you don’t need a milestone date or special reason to say, “I love you!” all over again. Get married as soon as you want. There are no rules to vow renewal anymore!

How Big Should it Be?

Your vow renewal ceremony is very personal and should be exactly what you want. Often times, first weddings involve meeting the expectations of others, especially parents and close family members. Your vow renewal doesn’t need to please anyone except each other and can be done your way. 

Plan your vow renewal to be as big or as small as you envision. If you never had the chance to have that big dream wedding because of budget restraints or other issues, then go ahead have a big hoopla. If you want a small backyard vow renewal ceremony and BBQ for your reception, then that’s a great idea, too! There are no rules. This time around, do everything your way.

Above all, have fun with this! Remember, this is about each other and the love you share.


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