Learn how to raise confident kids with these valuable tips from a fellow mother. Build a solid foundation of self-esteem and resilience.
by Kim Payne
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“Confidence is key – once you have that, you are unstoppable.”
Timothy Weah – Professional Soccer Player
Mothers are unstoppable. Once motherhood begins, it never truly ends. Forcing us to be our best selves, full of confidence and self-esteem, for the simple fact that our children need us to be. It’s a truly rewarding journey, and one filled with opportunities to teach our children to be unstoppable in life, too.
And since parenting brings so many surprises, it’s extremely valuable to find life lessons in every aspect of it. It’s funny; it reminds me of the Chutes and Ladders board game. Climbing the ladder to reach victory is exciting; nothing can stop you. However, in one turn, you can spiral down in shock and frustration to start the trek again.
It’s with this board game lesson that I come to the following conclusion: we can teach our kids to combat life’s hardships by equipping them with coping tools. Among them, are confidence and self-esteem. Confidence and self-esteem are a solid foundation to start building your child’s tool belt. These important skills will help our kids get back up on the ladder after a fall, and towards victory.
Sometimes, these inner conversations with ourselves are not often validated until we meet other parents. In one such conversation with a fellow mama, Paulette – a mother of two, we discussed the importance of raising confident kids and best ways to do it. She shared so much incredible information, like how raising confident kids is not always easy, but very rewarding. From our conversation together, I walked away with some of her top tips to help other mothers walk the parenthood path towards raising confident kids.
Be Honest: “I strongly believe in sharing my failures with my kids. This lets them know that it is okay to fail and that we learn from our mistakes.”
Allow Room To Grow: ”I have always told my kids that I trust them and they will always have my trust until they break it. This has given them and myself room to grow and open our communication.”
Make A Plan: “There will be times when my kids are not feeling strong. This is a time to talk with them and show love with hugs and understanding. I let them know that while they are not happy today, that this feeling doesn’t last forever. We can set goals and take baby steps to get back on track.”
Celebrate Wins: “When my kids do well, I verbalize it and help celebrate what went well. I also share my wins with them. I remind them that while we may not always be good at something, you win when you try your best.”
Don’t Forget the Fun: “I have always allowed my kids to express themselves in whatever way they are comfortable. I tell them to have fun with themselves and others without worrying about what others think. While that is not always easy, I want them to do what makes them happy. Life is too short to not have fun.”
Motherhood, like life, is a great journey. Paulette shared her ultimate tip for making it the most meaningful adventure of your life: “Above all, make sure your kids know you love them no matter what.”
